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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Hello Francesca, Thank you so much. I have not read science fiction writer Octavia Butler... but you are the thrid person to suggest her. I'm on it and will add her. Thank you so much!

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Curtis Dush's avatar

This is so interesting. The quotes from the male authors could just as easily been written yesterday or today. It is unsettling to think that the language of violence and fear is still so close.

I honestly believe that women's voices will be what carries us through the journey ahead. Women and people of faith and spirituality. Lifting up these voices seems almost more important than ever right now. Peace.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Yes, I agree with you. Unsettling to see the historical gaps and how dominant white mans experience/privilege has been unchallenged. Yes I think we need to consistently center minority voices. Women definitely have worked so hard, sacrifice so much and it will not go to waste. Thank you so much for stopping by and reading.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you!

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Lila Sterling's avatar

The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth by Monica Sjöö and Barbara Mor, 1987, revision 1991- explores the ancient and often suppressed role of the feminine in religious and spiritual traditions. The book traces the history of the "Great Cosmic Mother," a symbol of the Earth, fertility, and divine feminine power, from pre-patriarchal societies to modern times. It examines how early cultures revered the Earth as sacred, with female deities at their core, and how the rise of patriarchy and monotheism led to the suppression of these figures.

Through a combination of historical analysis, feminist theology, and mythology, the book advocates for a return to an Earth-centered spirituality that honors the feminine and restores balance to both the natural world and human society.

It is a hefty near 500 pages long. To the degree that it is approached with an open mind and a heart willing to SEE, it will forever change the reader.

Prajna, your essay is awesome. This shadow work which you speak of is precisely what I am deeply into. Truly and humbly LOOKING, willing to see even when I feel slayed in the process. I owe it to myself. I owe it to the world and her inhabitants to SEE!

I’m seeing how I not only project what I don’t like about myself, I also project my goodness, my creativity, my power and seeing more quickly now when it happens and why it’s so painful because projecting aspects of my self is equivalent to rejecting aspects of myself. All of me deserves to belong and I am finally realizing I can give to myself anything a man could have given me.

Thank you sister! 🔥❤️🔥

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you Lila

Response, wonderful wonderful wonderful, thank you so much. I completely get what you’re saying and good for you.

I have this canon of a book. It is amazing. Is it possible for you to edit your post and add the year? It was written.

What I’m trying to show this essay is how long it took for women authors to be acknowledged in the publishing world. I think that book was written. I have it at home 1980 maybe 86.

Maybe later

My daughter, Autumn, actually is friends with the daughter of the woman who wrote it

OK, thank you again for reading your comment

I’m hoping for my next essay to bring us more current, which is why I’m also asking for people to list their favorite books

Thank you so much

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Lila Sterling's avatar

You’re welcome. What an honor to know this woman, and no doubt she feels the same about Autumn.

I added the date.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

I love this book: The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth by Monica Sjöö and Barbara Mor, 1987, revision 1991. It is one of my bibles, along with Women Who Run with the Wolves, and the 9 out of 100 books listed here written by women, one had to use a male name to get published. She was not the first. Thank you!

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Lila Sterling's avatar

Yes! Women who Run with Wolves! 🐺 and all of Marion Woodman’s books

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Howling

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Dr Lucy Morley Williams's avatar

fabulous book - incredible in its power

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Wild Lion*esses Pride from Jay's avatar

Prajna,

your essay resonates deeply.

Over the past four years, I have dismantled dominant narratives within myself. I have taken apart every belief, value, conditioning, story, and expectation that shaped my life. I have traced each thread back to its roots. I have unraveled what others imposed, what didn’t belong to me, and what kept my true self buried under layers of oppression. I have used shadow work to uncover and integrate hidden, often painful experiences. I reclaimed parts of myself that had been long exiled.

Your exploration of how power operates connects directly to my journey.

A narrow group of people wrote and maintained the dominant story of power. They excluded the perspectives, experiences, and strengths of non-dominant populations. Fear, control, and exploitation shaped this narrative. Texts like The Prince and The Art of War perpetuated it. These narratives influenced systems of power and became internalized, even for those they sought to oppress.

You ask what happens when we redefine power through the stories and experiences of non-dominant populations.

This question transforms the conversation.

It replaces dominance with connection and exclusion with inclusion.

My journey has shown me that true power grows from collaboration, empathy, and courage—the courage to face what remains hidden. The dominant narrative dismisses these qualities as weak, yet they form the foundation for a sustainable and inclusive future.

Reimagining leadership and power requires more than external changes. It requires systemic changes on all levels.

It demands personal work.

It is necessary to untangle the ways we internalized and perpetuated these systems.

This work challenges us, but it also allows us to reclaim what we lost and rebuild something more compassionate and expansive.

Thank you for opening space to reflect on these ideas. Your writing invites me to engage with the hard, necessary work of reweaving our collective story.

With gratitude,

Jay

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

I love this insightful and well-informed response — indicative that you have done the deep inner work of dismantling. It's hard and exciting. I feel energized by it.

"You ask what happens when we redefine power through the stories and experiences of non-dominant populations.

This question transforms the conversation."

Yes, thank you for reading and commenting.

I love the way you think, feel, and write.

Sisterhood — a non-dominate community will strengthen us — together.

I have non-abled daughters, and their voice is missing... as well, partly why I feel so passionately called to keep writing ....

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Wow Prajna. Just wow. When I was reading the list of the rules of power, all I could think was: He does that. He does that. He does that. I know he's not stupid. He's doing that to seem so. It chilled me to the bone because they want us to go all the way back to 1920. That means no right to vote, which is when they think everything went wrong. What's the solution to the suburban women who won't vote for them? Remove the right to vote. It's in Project 2025. We are the authors of this wrongness. Women. Who vote and say things and write things. Whoever gave your daughter that grab bag of books loves her, even if they've never met. We have to love each other fiercely.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

It is chilling, we see before us the building blocks of patriarchy—before 1920, it's so old! I am going to publish the stories I found from before this time that did not get published. Like The Chalice and the Blade by Riane Eisler, do you know this one? We need this inspiration and to love each other fiercely.

I love my book bag and read most of the books on it.

The books by the early fathers are so unreliable and boring.

I think my title could have been more fierce. Do you have suggestions?

Thank you, sister!

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

I have read Raine Eisler. I think we need to understand that there were and are other models for culture. The Celts that Cesar wrote about were egalitarian. Have you read, The Dawn of Everything by Graber and Wengrow? We’ve been led to believe that patriarchy is natural selection / that capitalism is the apex of civilization. But none of it is true. Starting with the mythologizing of the hunter gathers and the specialization (gendered, of course) of work. Have you read Caliban and the Witch? An education in the uses of witch trials in the change over to capitalism. I could go on and on.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Please do go on and on. I have not read these but I plan to. I find it so empowering to have this knowledge and to build on the courage of the women who went before us. Let's keep building our canon—the truth that sets us free. Thank you!

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Elaine Pagals, Marija Gambutas. I have to look at my bookshelves. I had class with Marion Woodman at Pacifica. Her Leaving My Father’s House. Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you. I will add these, I still need to read "Marija Gambutas."

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Verona Murray's avatar

I would like to recommend the writing/books of Riane Eisner. “The Chalice & the Blade” and “ Sacred Pleasure” being primary choices to begin with! I love your daughter’s book shelf!!

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you Verona

I love both of these books, especially chalice and the blade

I will add them to the list and we will keep building this canon

I’m glad you stopped by

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Shelley Durga Karpaty's avatar

Prajna! This is a wonderful collection of work you have gathered. Thank you. I have been noticing lately that my literary and spiritual influences have mostly been men. While I have come so far in my journey on the path less traveled to be my most authentic, fully realized self connected to I AM, I long for a coven of women to talk about these things. When I read your essays, I take a sigh and think, ‘yes.’

I think to add “The Awakening” by Kate Chopin would be a perfect fit for this list. It was the first book I read at 19 years old, that spoke to me about feminist beliefs of freedom in ways I had not read before.

The last 4 years I have begun to find my women teachers in Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Mirabai Starr, Caroline Myss, Byron Katie and more.

I am grateful for this piece and I am now going to finish a piece I have started similar to this one.

With love and appreciation!

Shelley

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Hi Shelley,

Thank you for this wonderful comment. What a great list of female authors I’m familiar with all of those.

I read the awakening by Kate Chopin sometime ago. I think I need to re-read it. I can’t even remember what it’s about.

Thank you so much for this

Sending you a big hug, sisterhood coven

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Lily Pond's avatar

Prajna, I appreciate your painstaking effort in putting together this list of Western canonical works throughout the ages. Showing how few works were written by women and how they only surfaced in the later eras of our written human history is itself a great service!

I remember reading many of these works in college, but how some of them shaped my world view. My first Eng. Lit class actually had a feminist leaning. I read works by Emily Dickinson, Kate Chopin and Virginia Woolf. But I didn't really have the understanding of how their works were revolutionary in the context of the literary and philosophical canon dominated by white male. So reading this essay gave me a light-bulb moment!

There are so many gems in this list. I will save it for future reference when I'm selecting books to read.

It's interesting you mentioned Jungian shadow works. I came across the books by Connie Zweig on this subject. Although I haven't finished reading the two books I bought by her, "Meeting the Shadow: The Hidden Power of the Dark Side of Human Nature," and "Romancing the Shadow: A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life," I learned a lot from her about this subject matter. Highly recommend.

I also highly recommend the works of Polly Young-Eisendrath, a Jungian psychoanalyst and zen Buddhist practitioner (once a sort of mentor to me). Her book "Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to be Wanted" should be considered a feminist canon.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

All of your words excite me. Yes to light bulb moments. I relate as I studied feminist literature (some) in the 80's but it did not completely land until I had more lived experience as a woman/mom/guide - in live, etc. This sounds juicy and potent "I also highly recommend the works of Polly Young-Eisendrath, a Jungian psychoanalyst and zen Buddhist practitioner (once a sort of mentor to me). Her book "Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to be Wanted" should be considered a feminist canon." I will add it to the feminist canon we are building book by book. Thank you. It should be required reading for life. I hope to organize by the dates they were written. I attribute more recent learnings to the podcast called "Breaking Down Patriarchy." They did a series of books according ot the date written and showed all the gaps and omissions. It was chlinng and embolding. Thank you for adding your voice here. I appreciate you!

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Lily Pond's avatar

You're welcome. Thanks for mentioned the podcast, which I wasn't aware of. I must go and look it up now! I appreciate the tireless work that you do to uplift the voice of women!

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

You Have To Go Back To The Archives to Find The Books And Interviews

Thank You So Much

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Moss Rose's avatar

It looks like I'll have to give the Scarlett letter another read as an adult with children. I think I was too young to enjoy it at 15.

Great article 👌💜

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Yes, me too. There are many I want to re-read, now that I have a better understanding of how literature impacts life. Thank you!

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Moss Rose's avatar

Rereading is a very important practice.

I'm kind of laughing at myself now after reading your well thought out article and what you said about pride and prejudice. "A stab in my serenity" 🤣 or whatever I said. It is a good book, and I really liked Elizabeth and Darcy. I think had I read it physically instead of listening to it, the book would have been more of a peaceful, swoon worthy read to me.

I wanted to cry for Elizabeth too many times, having to endure a mother like hers

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Wild Lion*esses Pride from Jay's avatar

Hi Prajna,

Thank you for sharing this beautifully woven exploration of power, stories, and the unseen threads shaping our collective narratives.

The way you brought voices like Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and Marion Woodman into this space felt like an invitation to pause and consider what has been missing from our understanding of influence and leadership.

As I read, I found myself reflecting on the ways power dynamics are often internalized.

Your call to include relational, empathetic, and nurturing aspects in leadership is not only timely but deeply necessary. It’s empowering to imagine what might shift when we begin weaving these threads into the fabric of our cultural story, rather than leaving them on the margins.

One book that comes to mind for adding to the canon is Octavia E. Butler’s Kindred (1979). Her exploration of identity, history, and power through the lens of speculative fiction offers such a nuanced and poignant narrative. It’s not only a gripping story but a profound commentary on the intersections of race, gender, and time itself.

Your work continues to be a wellspring for thoughtful reflection and connection. Thank you for holding space for such meaningful dialogue.

Warmly,

Jay

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Hi Jay, I’m always so happy to read you. I have not read kindred, but I love Octavia. I will put this on my list and read it as soon as I can.

Thank you for doing the wonderful work of digging deep and weaving stories together. This is how we may collective change.

I’m excited for the next part which will be the book by women. Yahoo

Cell 👏💚🌹

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Wild Lion*esses Pride from Jay's avatar

Prajna,

It’s such a joy to see your response. I’m glad Kindred is now on your list.

Your excitement for the next chapter—focusing on books by women—feels like a celebration of stories that truly shape and shift our collective understanding. I can’t wait to see the voices you bring into this space next. Thank you for your encouragement and for continuing to spark these important conversations. Together, weaving stories and perspectives, we have the power to create the change we long for.

With gratitude,

Jay 💚🌹👏

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Lila Sterling's avatar

“The TED Talk”. The dangers of a single story is so powerful and moving. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Yes yes yes 🧡❤️🧡

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Sacred Healing Remedy's avatar

Such power in this essay, but not the one that tears a building down, rather the nuanced kind that seeks to make changes by creating new pathways for energy to flow rather than spending that energy going backward. It’s in us to focus on our future, with gratitude to the voices of our collective pasts that seek to teach us to go further than we’ve dared in ways we could only once dream. Appreciate all of this. Appreciate you. Thank you so much for being here and sharing your voice and your deeper self too. ❤️

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you for feeling the direction I am for, not destruction yes but like you said to keep moving forward.

I can’t not do this.

Thank you for stopping by again, reading and sharing your inspiration.

🌹

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Nancy Jainchill's avatar

I have to go back and read this very thorough compilation. Thank you. Here's one:

The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Hi Nancy, Thank you for having a look. This reveals so much. I will add The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry to our canon. Many great suggestions, if you have others I am happy to know about them. I read The Little Prince some time ago. Thank you!

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Lyns McCracken's avatar

I have so much to learn from you. Thank you for this awesome list and important descriptions and attributes. Thank you for the banned books and the shadow work. I am always interested in digging more into shadow work. Thank you for your reminder about tender solitude. We needed this list. We needed this discussion.

P.S. Thank you for the mention as well! I am happy to recommend your wonderful stack. 🩶

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Thank you so much for reading, sharing, commenting, and cheering me on. Yes, Is the only thing I can do to keep moving forward. I have to dig into all of this stuff.

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