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Wonderful to see photos of the party and hear how it went, Prajna. What an amazing family you have. You've had to dig so deep in your life and be so resilient. Thanks for sharing parts of that journey with us. Sending love.

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Hi Wendy, thank you so much for your comment and for reading. I appreciate your insights. I am very glad you are part of this community or we can share our stories and support each other.

Thank you again!

Ps I have not forgotten about the snake story!

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Oct 21Liked by Prajna O'Hara

so so so much love for you all, even if I see there's so much love in your fabulous family already, a bit more of love is never too much. thanks for your generosity 🙏🥰✨

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I am deeply warmed by your words. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and share a comment. I appreciate appreciate you. 💕🥳💜

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Prajna, your honest reflection on your birthing journey and the story of mothering your amazing Abby and Libby is incredibly moving. The weight of this experience is profound and intense. You've accessed something so deep and, from it, created such immense care, transformative healing, and personal insight. Yet, it’s clear how navigating this birth and holding space for the constant care of your twins can be exhausting and challenging. Your journey of mothering feels wild, rough, like being in the "open ocean." May you find calmer days ahead, and may the support of community and help draw nearer as you move closer to the shore.

Through these challenges, you've found sacred rage, release, plant medicine healing, and a profound strength rooted in feminine inner wisdom. May you continue to share your story, light, strength, and power. Keep shining with your raw, divine feminine light. By the end I was smiling from the details of your storytelling of this past Saturday and the light that you create from dark.

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Hi Ella, like being in the open ocean. I love that expression and I think I might swim in the ocean more often not just metaphorically but for real.

I would love to see what happens

Thank you for your beautiful and insight felt comments. I appreciate your reading this and sharing.

🥳🥳🥳

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Prajna! This is one of my most favorite things. After hot yoga is amazing as well. Some day soon we should jump in, it feels like being reborn!

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Hi Ella, That would be something to capture for the 67th celebration. I love this idea. Thank you again.

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This section right here... "I see the sickness embedded within the industrial medical complex and the 'power-over' dynamics of patriarchal systems and culture as harmful to everyone. No one wins until we embrace “We and With”—not either-or; not us versus them. We live on a spectrum of possibilities. ‘Normative’ is nothing more than a conceptual ideal endorsed to sustain capitalistic minority rule and rape children of our Great Earth Mother. I refuse to collude." I could not agree more! THIS, THIS, THIS!

The birthday party for the twins sounds and looks wonderful. Sweet in all the meanings of that word.

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Hi Julie, I simply love your profound resonance with all of this. You are a true heart warrior and I am so glad to be in sisterhood with.

Yes, this this this. Thank you so much.

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I know this sacred rage so well. It definitely helped to clear me out and purge that victim consciousness that you mentioned. It sounds like for all its complexity, it was a good day for the girls. I am so impressed that Autumn managed to organise so much of this Harry Potter themed event. Honestly, I find birthdays so exhausting. It’s just always feels like mother’s work, the remembering and organising, all the details, all the special touches that make the celebrated person feel special— and then it’s pressure too to be holding this responsibility on your shoulders. So many birthdays for so many children over so many years.

I hope with your birthday you manage to do something that celebrates you Prajna, however you want to be celebrated!

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Thank you so much for this Michele. I am very happy to have another sister in the sacred rage Circle.

It is powerful medicine. And it is so amazing to have Autumn back and that she was able to take a break for herself and attend to her own needs.

Wise woman

My plan is to swim in the ocean and start a new ritual

Somebody told me that my life is like the ocean and I thought well maybe I need to spend more time in it

lol

Sending love

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YES, YES, YES! 🌊 I swim in the Salish Sea nearly every day - while singing for her and us and all of life. Aliveness, moving through rough and the calm, singing with discomfort - you already know how to do this!

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Christine, I love your empowered encouragement to get back inot the sea. I'm going to do this. Thank you!

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The ocean is so so healing, I dreamt I was swimming in it last night because I’ve had the flu, and I woke up feeling heaps better! The dream ocean helped to heal me 🙏🏻

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I believe this. I had a dream about raised beds or raised pots for plants growing a new, and lots of them.

Directly from the Earth Mother, it felt so healing

Are you close to the ocean?

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I can walk to the ocean 😊

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Wonderful. So can I. I’ll meet you there.

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I love your title and this essay. How often I have to whisper in my own ear, "don't lose your shit." Although at times, it does feel good.

Your beautiful twins share a birthday with my middle son. He is 32 today. Happy birthday to your daughters. xo

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Yes, maybe for you. I should say “go ahead and lose your shit. It might feel good“ Don’t think it’s a bad thing, especially when it transforms something and it feels like sacred rage, it is clean and powerful and doesn’t harm another person.

Thank you, Kim for your comment and your good wishes

Happy birthday to your middle son at 32! 🥳🌹💜

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Your writing is always powerful. It’s like reading the words of someone who is absolutely compelled to write or go mad and who is able to wring out every emotion and feeling from the reader. Leaving one breathless.

There is so much courage in this story of yours. So much wisdom now, that wasn’t there before. So much inner beauty released into the universe from your words.

I also feel I must say… I have always held a soft spot for Medusa… the myth created by men who feared the truest power of the divine feminine. She has been my hero many a time. ❤️

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Oct 21·edited Oct 22Author

Hello, sacred healing remedy,

Thank you for your words. I am sitting here, smiling to have another sister friend in Medusa.

I love this 'absolutely compelled to write or to go mad.' You know me well, I do other things as well like yoga and jump in the ocean (used to getting back to it) or cold plunges (currently).

Thank you so much for reading and for your wise insights.

I think we need to create a medusa emoji. Do you have any ideas?

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You are welcome. Thank you for being so strong by being vulnerable. And … you mean there isn’t a Medusa emoji?! 🏛️🐍

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I haven’t seen one. What is that that you just used? Is it a dragon, a swan?

Dragon 🐉 Not quite fierce enough

Thanks for playing with me.

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I used a snake and a temple. lol.

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Medusa deserves better than that, don't you think?

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Um … yes … but I’m not sure how to get the creators of emojis to come up with a symbol for a Gorgon. 🤣

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I will continue to ponder this delightful possibility for a creator.

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Oct 21Liked by Prajna O'Hara

Thank you, Prajna. So much here…and I too get the rage. It is truly a “cleansing” force in its seemingly merciless but oh so merciful work in us. 💝

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Absolutely. Can you say more of what happens in your body before, during, and after? I'd love to hear. Thank you

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Oct 22Liked by Prajna O'Hara

Hey Prajna! "Disney Uncle" in your subhead made me smile big! :-)))

There are so many underlying themes and threads in your story that I resonate with, and I look forward to reading more about each if you should expand on them in the future.

Am I understanding it correctly that you had a personal friendship with Ram Dass, and that he witnessed the healing your twins experienced? That's so awesome! I love acupuncture myself so I was delighted to hear that your babies received good treatment from such a generous and experienced TCM doctor.

I also read with great interest the part about your involvement in a cult. I myself was involved in one for over 20 years... not actively but my ex-husband brought me into it and we were very devout. I had a similar experience questioning the belief system when I was taken very ill--the cult (TM to be exact) teaches that its form of meditation is a panacea to all ills. Well, it did not save me from my disease, neither did it save my ex from alcoholism nor our marriage. I have a story to tell about my exit from this cult. Some other day!

It seems that you and Disney Uncle are in an amicable situation and that you were even willing to donate a kidney to him, whozie! What you said about once loving a person.... well, I differ in my experience due to the trauma I received from the deep hurt and betrayal from the ex.

I love the symbolism of Medusa and cheer for you for evoking her spirit and opening a channel for healthy expression of anger and setting boundaries!

"If we don’t find a way to channel it, this rage lives on in us as ‘unconscious shadow material’—haunting us—until it becomes conscious." --> This is gold!

I have only just learned how to access Medusa after breaking up with my cheater ex. And I must say, being once so fearful of her, I no longer shun her and in fact, I love her now!!!

Good call on restraining from helping Abby blow the candles! That must have done so much good to her confidence and self esteem!

I hope you get to take a real good rest now after the festivities!

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Hey Lily

I want to respond to this fully. Thank you so much. There is so much here.

I will answer a few things. Yes our relationship is amicable but dead.

For my mental health, I needed to stop trying to get blood from the stone so to speak.

And my girls enjoy seeing uncle Disney on special occasions.

I’m gonna come back when I’m at my computer. Thank you for taking the time to read and for sharing so much. Awesome

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Thank you for your first reply, Prajna!

I understand now the dynamics between you and uncle Disney.

Your expression " get blood from the stone" is so interesting and I get it! We have an expression in Cantonese: "Picking bones from inside an egg." Not referring to the same thing but there's a metaphorical parallel in them.

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Hi Lily, My X and I met at this particular cult. I was in a determined renunciate/celibacy phase —confused and thought I needed to cleanse myself of prior.... There were some advantages to it. My X eventually won me over with his music and voice. Some lovely aspects to him. It took a long time for me to see how deeply wounded all of us were, and played by the narcissist that ran the organization. Having a baby saved me, it does not mean I did not grief the loss of community. I was not physically abused, emotional detachment and feeling so alone in our relationship was my hardship—I needed a friend in him, that did not manifest.

Medusa has allowed me to look at unconscious patterns and meet what needs grieving, healing, mending — it took a loonng time to feel and express rage — so freeing.

"I love the symbolism of Medusa and cheer for you for evoking her spirit and opening a channel for healthy expression of anger and setting boundaries!

"If we don’t find a way to channel it, this rage lives on in us as ‘unconscious shadow material’—haunting us—until it becomes conscious." --> This is gold!

This is truly what has set me on a course of sovereignty altogether.

I am glad you find meaning here and safety to express. We need to tell our stories to receive the gifts of Medusa — from her blood came two winged horses: One is the golden sword of discernment; the other births creativity—to birth your life anew!

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Oct 23Liked by Prajna O'Hara

Oh the narcissist who ran the cult! Yes, I'm familiar with that aspect of all cults. Interestingly, my ex husband also won me over with his music and voice.

Being alone in an intimate relationship seems like such an oxymoron, but it's all too common and it is better to leave such a relationship than to stay in. I experienced it with two different men, one was absent through alcoholism and the other, through cheating. The loneliness was horrible. So even without abuse, that alone was enough to call it quits.

Your explanation of the myth of Medusa has such a great effect on me, that I might take her up as my avatar (not sure if that's the right word). Indeed, through the blood that I bled in my heart, I've received the gifts of discernment and creativity... a new self is being born. I'm inspired. I think I'm going to draw Medusa! See how your storytelling has activated all these ideas in my mind! Thank you!

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Hey Lily

The more I learn about Medusa and don’t turn away from her, the more I receive of who she really represents.

I will be riding more about her as I’ve been into a very deep exploration and leaving a course called dragon water medicine. We Center, Medusa.

She was given such a poor wrap, and then Weaponized like so many women and patriarchal culture

I could say much on this.

I’m sorry for the dickheads encountered and I’m glad that you are out.

Another fascinating aspect of our stories, the voice and the music, and the extreme loneliness during that time.

Thank you for your kind words

Your inspiration inspires me !

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Oct 23Liked by Prajna O'Hara

I love how our stories inspire each other!

I'm seriously excited to read more about your Medusa insights after your deep exploration!!!

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There is a beautiful novel called Stone Blind by Natalie Haynes. She does an amazing job. I have the audio—exquisite detail humanizing Medusa. I'm still unpacking it. Thank you Lily.

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Oct 24Liked by Prajna O'Hara

Thanks for your recommendation. I'm going to borrow the audiobook and listen to it!

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Thank you for sharing your powerful story, your life, your beautiful girls. May you continue to grow and evolve with them. May each day together be a birth day, a gift, a lesson in presence. 🎂 ❤️ 🎁

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Thank you dear Julie! 🌹

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And I know of this rage you speak! I've had a few rage attacks myself, especially over the past few years, going through this latest spiritual awakening. Sometimes things are best said at full volume.😀

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You made me smile hugely

I’m happy to have you in my sacred Medusa Circle sisterhood.

She seems to have lots of company.

Thx Julie

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Thank you sharing this. I am awe-struck.

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Thank you Craig. So kind.

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Hello Craig, do you have a story to share? This is a wonderful place to be warmed by others shared experiences—to harvest meaning.

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Just...wow. 💜

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Thank you, Clare. I’m very curious what you resonate with. Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

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SO MUCH TO LOVE in your story! 💗😢💪🏽🥰

I adore all the intertwined threads of love, intense loss, healing, spiritual growth, rage, and resilience — all the things that bust our hearts open to receive truth. Plus, candles, hats, and this!

"I am a woman, endowed with feminine consciousness and a womb that carried one baby full term, while my twins' birth was dramatically interrupted. I possess an interior landscape that only I can know, give voice to, and make decisions for—a hard-won reclamation of erotic power, pleasure, and creativity."

SING IT!!!

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Hello Christine, thank you so much for reading and for your beautiful words of acknowledgment. This means the world to me. Yes, let’s sing it all together.🌹🌹🌹

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Happy Birthday to your girls!

Your essay touched on so much, or better said, touched me so much. I share a similar "cult story" with you, that fierce longing to find the path to unbrokenness. Guru speak is a male language and Father God only covers half of the human race. Now I seek the Mother, within myself and within the temple of nature. In the end though, the results of the spiritual seeking life were more about skinned knees and a bruised heart and that's the stuff of opening and growth. In my early youth I thought that God was in the bright and shiny places, only to learn that she lived in the dark corners of suffering -- right where I needed her the most.

Medusa. YES! I think that myths are not meant to be dusty old stories that are studied in school and then forgotten, they're meant to be brought alive and personalized a constant reclaiming of the journey. For me, it's the Persephone myth that keeps revealing the cycles of my own life.

Prajna, a lot of what draws me to your writing is your mytho-poetic world view. Within the language of metaphor, symbols, patterns and nature, I find what nourishes my soul. When I read your work, I'm constantly reminded of the transformative forces of love and loss. What a gift you are in my life.

As for ex's, well they do provide starting point; a starting over point; a re-creation and reclamation of who we were always intended to be -- not defined by anyone's standards but our own. And a little humorous relief doesn't hurt.

May you, Abby and Libby continue to exemplify the grace, the goodness, and the sacred rage of becoming holy (from Old English: hālig meaning "wholeness"). I have found in you and your stories a kindred spirit, inspiration, and permission to be my most authentic. You are in my heart. With appreciation and admiration, ~Stephanie

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Hello Stephanie, I love that we can be mirrors for each other in strong sisterhood—digging deep—finding and reclaiming hālig—wholeness—purposeful meaning making. You insoire me to continue to write like this:

"Medusa. YES! I think that myths are not meant to be dusty old stories that are studied in school and then forgotten, they're meant to be brought alive and personalized a constant reclaiming of the journey. For me, it's the Persephone myth that keeps revealing the cycles of my own life.

Prajna, a lot of what draws me to your writing is your mytho-poetic world view. Within the language of metaphor, symbols, patterns and nature, I find what nourishes my soul. When I read your work, I'm constantly reminded of the transformative forces of love and loss. What a gift you are in my life."

Thank you for your good wishes to me and my girls. Heartfelt thanks to you always.

I can't wait until you move close by.

with love, respect, and deep appreciation, Prajna

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Oct 23Liked by Prajna O'Hara

This is going to take a little while to unpack! Your writing is rich in insight and honesty, for which I am grateful. I must admit, there was a twinge of envy as I read the portion of your story with Ram Dass. More about that some other time! Happy birthday to your beautiful girls.

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Thank you so much Carrie, I would love to hear more from you.

Perhaps under the circumstances it was quite nice to have Ram Dass in the vicinity even though he could barely speak if at all. A good vibes wonderful being.

Thank you for the good wishes and for reading.

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